When I started “coaching” back in 1994, I didn’t have an answer to this question. While 20 plus years have passed I think there are people out there still who wonder what the answer to that question is. That’s why I wanted to address this in Part 2 of my series of blogs on coaching. Coaching is first and foremost a relationship between you and your coach. It is highly personal, highly confidential and calls for mutual trust. The desired result is that you will grow professionally and personally. It is all these characteristics and the fact that coaching is very immediate – it discusses what you faced and grappled with that morning – that gives it an edge as a learning and development experience. But it is more than that so read on.Read More
It was one of Australia’s leading female CEOs, Gillian Frank, who once said that women can have it all, but not all at once. Many of us have learned that the hard way. We have tried to keep all the balls in the air and as a result we failed to be who we truly wanted to be. There are three ways we can achieve that and still remain true to who we are and what we stand for. We discover our Why. We set goals around it. We build a network of support that helps us achieve it because there is no way we can go it alone.Read More
People move in and out of teams all the time. When new people come into a team how they are helped to become part of it is important to the on-going successful functioning of the team. It is not only the team manager’s role to ensure their positive engagement, but every team member’s as well. Here is checklist for you to use to check off what kind of a team member you are and how you can contribute to making your team great.Read More
The great debate at this time of the year is about whether goal setting has a value or not. If you’ve been there before only to find that, in spite of your best efforts, life and “important” work gets in the way after a month or so, then you are probably not going to set any goals this year.
Let’s stop and think about this a bit.
Whatever success means to you, it is worth pursuing the actions that will see you achieve it. You feel empowered, in charge of your life when you do. You see yourself as a “Can Do” person. Having achieved one goal, you gain in confidence about achieving another. And the next one is much easier again. Your head is in the right place. You have more energy. You have fewer limiting beliefs about yourself. You are much more confident.
The most successful people, in whatever field they work, all set goals. They then bring focus to achieving them.
Goal setting is about focusing on your WHY. If you have a big enough WHY, the HOW is easy.
So the first step in goal setting is knowing why you want to achieve that goal. Sometimes you have to dig deep to get clear about that.
So let’s turn this goal setting problem upside down.
Today is the last day of 2017 – another year is drawing to a close. While you will have no time to think today, I’m going to suggest that you find some time to reflect on some important questions before you go back to work and launch into the new year. They are all questions that cause you to reflect on what changes you have made in your life this year. Or did you set goals and then not follow through and end up a photocopy of your 2016 self?
If you had a successful year know what made it so and make sure you repeat that this new year. If you had a disappointing year, discover why and make sure you don’t repeat those mistakes in 2018.
If ever we needed well-developed soft skills it is at this time of the year – the Christmas New Year period. What is it about this time of the year?
Why do we all run around in circles trying to finish things when we don’t do the same at the end of most other months?
Why can’t we fit anything else into our schedules? I am going to suggest that we actually create this stress, overwhelm and sense of urgency for ourselves, that we turn it into a self-fulfilling prophecy that we’ve perpetuated over the years.
I’m going to suggest that you just STOP FOR ONE HOUR, find a quiet space for yourself where you are not going to be interrupted and just review what you want and need to do over the next weeks until Christmas. Here are some ways to stay sane, less stressed and even enjoy this lead into Christmas and the New Year.Read More
Managing our time is one of our greatest challenges whether at work or outside of work. How do we find the time to do the things that are important to us? Why do we feel so often that we spend our days doing things that really do not make a difference to our lives?
Stop and think for a minute because if you are like many people the main reason you spend your time on trivialities is because you procrastinate about doing the things of value that really make a difference. Why would you do that? Why would you not do what is in your own best interests to do? Because they are usually the hardest things to do. They demand much of you. They require self-discipline. They call on you to dig deep and to get out of your comfort zone. So instead of doing them you procrastinate. You put them off. Have you noticed how very stressful procrastinating is?
Brian Tracy’s classic book “Eat That Frog! 21 Great Ways to Stop Procrastinating and Get More Done in Less Time” has plenty of ways you can beat that thief that steals your time – procrastination.
Overwhelm rolls in over the top of so many people in the workforce – professionals, small business owners, construction workers and other tradies, CEOs and executives and all those workers in all those organisations called on to do more with less.
To those who feel overwhelmed, there seems to be no way out, other than to resign and for most leaving their job without another to go to is not an option. Any way, are there any jobs today where overwhelm is not a pervading presence? Probably not, but it is possible to learn ways to manage, even beat, overwhelm and feel productive and in charge of your life at work.
Here is a short 12 minute audio I did of how to beat overwhelm. Listen to it here or download it to your MP3 player.
Time management is the bane of our lives. We constantly complain that we never have enough of it. We don’t have time to do what we need to do, let alone what we want to do. Not having it is our excuse for everything. Ironically, even if we had another few hours in the day, it wouldn’t alter a thing because we would fill that up also and still not have any time.
Yet, if we don’t manage our time well, it has major repercussions for our personal and professional lives. Apart from us always feeling stressed and stretched, never having time for the important people in our lives or what’s really important in our businesses, we lay ourselves wide open to heart attacks, strokes and an early death.
Time does indeed fly, but you are the pilot. You make all the decisions about what happens with your time. You set your priorities. Here are 13 challenges to your time management and 13 ways to overcome them.Read More
Micro-managing yourself can be the road to empowered leadership and management. That dirty word – micro-management – can actually be something good. So many of you are so focused on doing leadership and management that you spend little time working on, even trying to understand, what the BEING part of leadership and management is. This is the self-leadership part, the part that says, you have to be able to lead yourself before you can lead others. To develop the self-mastery that is inherent in self-leadership, all of us, me included, have to micro-manage ourselves from how and when we get up in the morning and start our day, to the way we work and relate throughout the day and to the way we finish our day.
So in this case, micro-management is a good thing. As all of us bring together into congruence the DOING and BEING of leadership and management, the need to micro-manage our professional and leadership development will fade away. We will be efficient, productive and high performing automatically and naturally at being the empowered leader.Read More