It was Steve Jobs who famously said: “We are here to put a dent in the Universe”. To make sure, that when we have, our dent will be there with our unique name on it is some what of a challenge. It’s an even bigger challenge to do what we need to do to put the dent there in the first place. This is what being a Difference Maker is about.
I came up with 6 attributes that characterise a Difference Maker in this 21st Century.
Be The Coach, Not The Critic – How To Motivate For High Performance. What better recent example do we have of how to coach for high performance than that of Luke Beveridge who took the Western Bulldogs, in 2 years, to an AFL Grand Final winning from an unprecedented 7th position on the ladder. In…Read More
One of the on-going issues I find in my mentoring work with women is their wish to be the assertive woman leader, yet at the same time their fear to be so. There is always that sense that they feel trapped – damned if they do, doomed if they don’t. If they be assertive, they are seen to be untrue to their femininity; they are seen to be uncaring. They are regarded as being very forthright, in a negative sense. When men are forthright they are seen as ambitious in a positive sense. Woman are also caricatured by comments like: “She wears the pants” or worse “She’s got balls.” She’s like the men, in other words. It is a damning account.
On the other hand, if they don’t be assertive, their careers are doomed for they become invisible in their organisations and professional and industry sectors. Their potential and talent goes unrecognised. They can feel used. As one woman said to me: “Maree, I’m not walked over like a doormat, I’m wall-to-wall carpet.”Read More
Becoming self-managing and developing self-mastery is the second step in becoming the highly sought after emotionally intelligent professional. We all want to preserve our professional credibility and we know that we will do damage to it if we mouth off at someone who presses our buttons. So we learn to control what we feel while we are in front of them. What happens next though is what brings us down. We head back to the tea room and let fly about that person and what they said and did to all who are there. We then go back to our desk and stop at our colleague’s office on the way and go through it all again. When we get home at night – some 6 hours later – we are still churned up inside and fuming and our partner gets it all for the next hour. We take the other person’s critique of us on board as if it is true. We let it wound us and we don’t seem to be able to stop the bleeding. This person is only controlling her emotions, not managing them. There is a difference.Read More